NOT “The one”

Dear Nabal,

I wanted it to be you, but it isn’t. I found all the reasons to justify the lie that you are mine but that is just not the truth. I ignored the red flags, excused your wrongs and compromised my morals and values. For what exactly? All in the name of love? A love that’s not mine! They say what is for you will be for you, but it never felt like you were for me; well not for long anyways. When I puzzled over the reason why you could not get it right, I realized that you are just not the one. Even with blueprints, instructions and guides you are still incapable of loving me right. I realized that I have been tasking a fork to do what only a spoon can do. A fork cannot get a spoon’s job done; likewise you cannot love me correctly, as you are not the one.

A more mature woman told me, “We kiss a lot of frogs before we kiss our prince charming”. All of the pain, all of the hurt because you are just not the prince; you are a frog. Our situation reminded me of the story about Abigail, Nabal and David in the bible. Abigail was a beautiful and intelligent woman who was with an arrogant, foolish, mean, drunkard man called Nabal. They both had two different beliefs and morals; Abigail was a kind and loving soul to others but Nabal was selfish and cold towards people. Thankfully, her story did not end there being his wife; his wickedness killed him and took away his place in her life. Consequently room was made for a man after God’s own heart, David, who took Abigail to be his wife. David appreciated Abigail and saw the value in her character. Abigail prevented David from carrying out a gruesome murder with an act of kindness and he acknowledged that about her character and was very appreciative of it while Nabal on-the-other-hand was not able to bring himself to an appreciation of the kindness of his wife’s heart. Instead Nabal was completely against her kindness. (1 Samuel 25)

Now don't get me wrong, I am not saying you are all that Nabal was; instead I am saying our beliefs, morals and values did not align. Plus you were incapable to see and appreciate my worth. You showed yourself to not be the one by failing to be what I needed even after it was expressed so many times. Your reluctance to love me how I needed to be loved disqualified you from my life and made a path for another to come. Life goes on nonetheless and I wish you all the best! I forgive you and leave it all in the past.

Pure love between man and woman is God’s plan. Equally yoked relationships are God’s plan. Evidently, you and I weren’t God’s plan. Before I thought we were meant to be but now I see you are NOT “The One”

Regards,

Abigail

I write this letter to no specific person instead this is for all the situations I've ever been in that did not work out. I came to realize it did not follow suit because it was just not meant to be. I don't believe that there is just one person for someone; we all have options. I do believe though, it is just up to two people to truly choose each other.